Change is good, change is okay. Yes, it is hard to swallow, grasp, wrap your head around, accept, and be okay with. In the moment it might feel like it is the hardest thing in the world to do, but after you process it all and look back you realize seasons change, and so do we as people. Sometimes people are put in your life for a season, a reason, or a lifetime and if it ends it is okay! And truly, when one friendship ends, it opens the doors for a new friendship whether seasonal, or forever, or maybe just for a specific reason. For me personally (being a Taurus) I would much rather put up with a bad/toxic friendship than hurt anyones’ feelings. Which hard and something I know about myself, but never makes it any easier! I am a people pleaser and it in the end the only one it negatively effects is myself. The best thing you can do is always be your true and authentic self and be real. Don’t let people try and compare things in your life with there’s, we are all different, we all have different journeys, we all have different paths we are being led down and different experiences that make up that journey. Be true with yourself, and don’t try and change yourself to fit in, because at the end of the day the only one hurting from this is yourself. 

Remember change is good. 

x0_meagen lea

Voluspa Spiced Pumpkin Latte Candle– Since it is officially September I couldn’t resist to start bringing out the fall stuff! I had been searching high and low for the perfect fall candle to start the season off right and let me tell you! This Voluspa Spiced Pumpkin Latte candle does the trick! I also bought the diffuser as well to put in our master bathroom, it is smelling like fall in here! 

Bevvy afternoon drinks- These are my new favorite go to afternoon drinks! I like to mix mine with sparkling water and take them with us on walks. They help curb that afternoon craving while giving you energy. (I don’t have a direct link for this one, so send me a DM on Instagram or comment below and I can send you an email)

MBF and MBFA- I have always loved working out, prior to having Anchor I would go to the gym on a regular basis. Since Covid and gyms closing and having him and not having childcare Beachbody On Demand programs have been a huge hit for me! I wish I had taken measurements prior to starting my endeavor after being pregnant,  but in 7 weeks I lost 17 inches…I didn’t even know I had that much to loose! MBF and MBFA have given me the best results and I am loving it! (I don’t have a direct link for this one either, so send me a DM on Instagram or comment below and I can send you an email)

FitTrack Scale-The number on the scale is truly just a number! It has taken me awhile to figure this out and now that I have…it is life changing to say the least. I was looking back through photos of me at 120 prior to getting pregnant and then looking at me now I am 134 and look the same, but a more muscle now and stronger than ever. FitTrack shows you all the details and breaks it all down for you. It shows your water weight, your muscle your BMI, all of the important information. 

Mommy’s Bliss Little Gums– We are teething over here and whew, it is rough! We have tried so many different teething supplements, oils, etc. and so far this one is working the best! They also have a nighttime version as well. 

Lavender DoTerra Essential Oil- Teething is tough work, so lots of lavender has been used to help calm the little one and me, let’s be real! (Another one I don’t have a direct link to since my Mother in Law sells it, but I can point you in the right direction!)

Daily Stoic – This…I bought back in November and haven’t been the greatest at staying on top of it daily, but it is slowing getting put back into my daily routine. It included 366 meditations to read on a daily basis. It is a good way to regroup and redirect.

x0_meagen lea

I am going to start this post off by saying, I started this blog to have a safe space to share my ideas, finds, recipes, and also share my feelings. I am honestly not sure how many people read this or if anyone even does, but it has been a sort of outlet over the years. Of course throughout the years there have been plenty of posts that have been deleted or hidden and who knows this may end up being one of those at some point. I like to keep it positive and upbeat, but unfortunately life isn’t always rainbows, butterflies, unicorns, and sunny days. So, with that being said, this post is a real, raw, and full of emotions. 

5 Stages of grief;

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance

No one and nothing can prepare you for a loss of any kind, parent, pet, friend, family, baby, relationship, the list goes on and on. You hear of the 5 stages of grief, but until you have fully come through on the other side you don’t realize you are in it. It has been 2 years since I lost my Mom and there are still moments where I want to pick up my phone and call her, or those surreal moments where it just hits you like a ton of bricks that she isn’t here physically anymore.  When I was in the moment and in the grieving stages I had no idea that I was going through each and every stage. (I still don’t entirely understand the bargaining stage, but maybe that is up for interpretation?) I didn’t know or realize it until I went through them all and looked back and felt every single one of those stages, and still do. And it makes you wonder if you ever truly finish grieving, for me with my mom, I don’t think I ever will. I think it is something I have accepted that she is not in our physical dimension. If you have followed my posts I have talked about mediums, signs, and my take on after life. So, from here I am going to lead into something very personal, but something also very common that society has almost shamed in a sense and turned into a taboo subject. 

Miscarriages. Something I would never wish on my worst enemy. I feel like the 5 stages of grief still apply, but it takes it to a different context and level. You try and stay positive and google everything you are experiencing and try to justify it and think that this is normal, then you get angry that your body failed you, but in my case I have to remember that my body didn’t fail me. It brought a healthy baby boy into this world 6 months ago. Even after my first full term healthy pregnancy with Anchor I still did the typical take multiple pregnancy tests, I was beyond excited, scared also the thought of having 2 under two, but so excited. About a week after finding out and scheduling our first doctors appointment, we had a miscarriage. It was surreal. I didn’t want to believe it, I didn’t want it to become reality, but it already was. It was happening, it happened. The worst part of it all was having the continued morning sickness and the reminder that you were, past tense pregnant. 

I think there are so many things in peoples lives that they are afraid to express, because when you have emotion it is taught to us as a sign of weakness, and honestly if anything I think it is more of a sign of strength. Strength to be able to talk and articulate your feelings and feel what you are feeling in the moment isn’t an easy thing to do. 

So, I go back to one of my favorite sayings, one I have tattooed on me…Everything Happens For A Reason. In the moment we may not understand it, heck it may take years for us to understand it. But there is a reason things happen, I also believe we have control on those things and how we use it to better ourselves, learn, grow, whatever it may be. We have control over that portion of it. It isn’t easy, and taking another pregnancy test after it happened and seeing the words not pregnant stung, but there was a reason. I don’t understand it now, but hopefully someday I will. But for now I am going to keep living in the moment and be present in this beautiful life I am so blessed with. 

x0_meagen lea